I didn't know I'd marry a pastor when I took lessons. Honestly! ;-) I didn't know that doing so would reinforce a stereotype that many other pastors' wives would have to overcome. I didn't know being able to do such things would hinder others from feeling like they fit in.
Seriously though, none of us should fit a mold. We're not pod people. We're God's people. We're one body with many members.
Aren't we all square pegs? Shouldn't we all break the mold and rest in the potter's hand instead?
This morning I answered a question from a pastor's wife who's longing to fit in and be accepted for who she is. I don't know if she's putting expectations on herself, or if she's feeling pressure from others, or if it's a little bit of both.
All I know is that she's been feeling unwanted and alone. That makes me sad. I pray that she and the church she is a part of will embrace each other and grow together.